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Refresh your relationship: spend some quiet time together

Our lives are so hectic that work and family obligations leave little quiet time with our partners. We are so tired when we finally fall into bed that we rarely take the time to really talk to each other or cherish the specialness that is just ours.

Take a look at your schedule and figure out where you can steal a little time from the world for yourself. If you had to schedule an important meeting, you would make time. If you had a child in the hospital, you would most certainly take the time to spend a few hours there.

The time commitment does not have to be huge. The commitment to take that time does. This is the most important person in your life, not someone on a list somewhere under a business requirement and the PTA.

Take an hour here and an hour there to be alone with your love and nurture the uniqueness of the two of you. Take the kids to their grandparents or get a babysitter. Turn off your Blackberry and cell phone.

Use your uninterrupted time to do something you enjoy. Take a walk or a car ride and talk about yourself. Play word games or guessing games on the internet, laugh and communicate with each other the way you did when you were together so long ago. Listen to the music that was popular when you met and reminisce about the good old days.

Talk about movies you have seen, books you have read, sports, politics or national events. Talk about your future plans and how you envision your life together in a year, five years, or ten years. Talk about your problems and what you can do together to solve them.

Plan when you will next be together and what you will do then. And do it.

Stay true

Understanding Yourself

Understanding yourself is a lifelong journey. Your self-awareness grows as you age, and our understanding of the world around us changes as well. When you’re young, you’re more likely to base your understanding of the world on what your parents tell you and what they teach you. You might not have much experience with other people or cultures, so it’s easy for kids to believe what their parents tell them about how the world works. As you grow older, though, your experiences will begin to shape your understanding of how things work—and that can make it difficult to see things from other people’s perspectives. It’s important to try to understand why someone might think differently than you do; this will help improve your relationships with others and also make it easier for others to understand you as well.

Understanding yourself is the key to a successful life. It’s the foundation for everything you do, and it’s what allows you to grow and change as needed. The first step in understanding yourself is getting past your own biases. This can be easy when we have a strong sense of self-awareness, but it can also be a challenge if we’re not used to looking at ourselves objectively—especially when it comes to our flaws. When you are able to see yourself from an outside perspective, you’ll be able to identify patterns in your behavior that aren’t working for you. Then, by taking action on those patterns, you’ll be able to put yourself on a path toward success.

I’m a big fan of self-reflection, and always have been. I think it’s important to take time to understand yourself—not just what makes you tick, but also why. I’ve found that the best way to do this is by asking yourself questions and then giving yourself time to think about them. For example: “Why do I prefer my own company over time with other people?” or “What makes me feel good about myself?” or even “How do I want to be seen by others?” It’s easy to get caught up in the hustle and bustle of daily life, but taking a little bit of time each day to reflect on your goals, values and beliefs can really help you find your way when things get tough. Not only will it give you confidence in your ability to navigate tough times with poise and grace, but it will also help you make better choices about how you spend each day.

Sometimes, it can be difficult to understand why we do what we do. We might feel like we’re stuck in a rut, and that our lives are on autopilot. We might wonder if there’s something better out there for us, but feel like we’re just not able to get it. But the truth is: you are enough. You are perfect as you are. And it’s up to you to decide how you want to live your life. The first step? Understanding yourself. In order to make changes in your life, you need to have a clear idea of who you are and what makes you tick—what makes you happy, what makes you sad, what makes your heart sing, and what makes your brain spin with anxiety. This self-knowledge will help guide your decisions about where to go from here: whether that means staying put or making some changes in your life that will bring more joy into it (and maybe even get rid of some stress).


One of the most important things you can do for yourself is understand who you are. This sounds obvious, but it’s not always easy to put into practice. When I was younger, I never thought much about understanding myself—I just assumed that if I understood what other people wanted from me and did my best to give them that, everything would be fine. It wasn’t until later in life that I realized how wrong that assumption was. It’s true that there are some aspects of ourselves that we can’t change (like our height or eye color), but many of our behaviors are learned from others and can be changed as we grow older and more experienced in life. The first step in understanding ourselves is truly observing ourselves in a nonjudgmental way and asking ourselves questions like: What do I want? What makes me happy? What do I dislike? How do others perceive me when they meet me for the first time? Do they see me as kind or mean-spirited? Do they see me as funny or serious? Do they think highly of themselves because they have a position of power at work or home? These questions might seem simple enough, but answering them honestly will help you find out who you really are—and

A lot of people are confused by the idea that they don’t have to be someone else. They think that they’re supposed to model themselves after someone they admire, or follow the advice of experts, or even just do what everyone else is doing. But there’s nothing wrong with being yourself. And if you aren’t happy being yourself, then it’s possible that you’re not really yourself yet. It might seem like an obvious point, but it’s actually a hard one for most people: no matter how much you admire another person and want to be like them, there will always be parts of their lives that are different from yours—and that’s okay! You don’t have to try to be exactly like them in order to be happy in your own life. It can help to think about other people as something like role models or mentors rather than trying to copy them completely. For example, if someone tells you they’ve been working out three times a week and eating better since last month—but also happens to smoke cigarettes every day—you could try going for walks instead of working out as often as they do (if that works for your body). Or if someone


If you’re like me, you’re a little confused about how to understand yourself. I mean, how do you know what makes you happy? What does it even mean to be “yourself” in the first place? The answer is simple: just be yourself. It sounds lame, but it’s true. You don’t have to be a certain way or like a certain thing or do a certain thing to be yourself. You can just be who you are—a unique person with your own thoughts and feelings and experiences—and that’s enough for now. And if you’re wondering why being yourself isn’t enough yet, then keep reading!

You are not your job. You are not your bank account. You are not how many people follow you on Instagram, or how many likes you get on a post. You are so much more than the sum total of your social media presence, and it’s time to stop letting it define you. It’s time to start taking back control over how you feel about yourself, and what you believe about who you are. It’s time to stop letting the negative comments from strangers on the internet affect your self-esteem and self-worth, because they don’t matter! You matter—to yourself, and to those who love you.

Stay focus

Stop Expecting from the world

We as a whole have assumptions regarding our general surroundings. In the event that you’re gone out an extended get-away this late spring, you could hope to have great climate at the ocean side. You may be anticipating your work assessment and expecting your manager will discuss an advancement. You might anticipate that your sweetheart should call when he gets settled after his long outing.

Presently, envision you’re swimming and a school of fish comes right towards you (or on the other hand on the off chance that you’ve at any point been to an aquarium and remained before those huge tanks and seen something similar), this is the thing traveling through life is like. As indicated by non-dualism and different practices, our day to day existence is included traveling through an ocean of encounters and occasions — we are strolling eyes — that, similar to the fish, we have zero control over. What we can do is notice, and, now and again, even appreciate, that dazzling yellow fish as it goes by.

Where we cause problems is the point at which we have assumptions regarding how life should be. We make our own existence about the ocean side, the race, the sweetheart. At the point when life doesn’t match our assumptions, we blow up — restless, irate, frustrated, awkward. Yet, life isn’t intended to fit us; life fits itself.

What do we do? We attempt to transform it and give our all to cause the world to adjust to our existence. We attempt to get others to do what we figure they ought to do. We make up a tale about how the world is on a mission to get us. We attempt and kill the inclination — frustration, outrage — by carrying on, utilizing drugs, and so forth.

The awful news is that you have zero control over the fish coming at you. Fortunately as opposed to attempting to influence the world, you can figure out how to control yourself, the main thing you generally can. This is the way to make it happen:

1. Unwind

Stayed with downpour at the ocean side, no discussion about advancement, your beau doesn’t call. You’re frustrated, furious, restless. Life isn’t adjusting to your assumptions, your existence. Take a couple of full breaths — bring down your shoulders.

2. Know

There is your psyche that is continuously running — contemplations, considerations, contemplations — and your cognizance, your mindfulness that your brain is running. You need to work on venturing back to the point of seeing what your brain is doing. It’s scrambling, logical letting you know a wide range of intentions for get the world to adjust to your assumptions — triple-really taking a look at the climate projection, messaging your beau, fixating on your advancement.

3. Observe

Concentrates on patients with persistent torment have shown that one of the most outstanding ways of decreasing torment is to watch and be interested about the thing you’re feeling it, yet do whatever it takes not to switch it or make around a tale about it. At the point when we attempt to change our experience — when we pay attention to our panicky psyche and do the messaging, the checking, the fixating, it frequently deteriorates. By essentially embracing an inquisitive mindfulness — we should see where this occasion, this experience goes — it frequently changes; the fish swim by.

4. Keep point of view

Here you share with yourself that the world isn’t worked around me, that this is a first-world issue, that I have no control over others.

5. Value the experience

On the off chance that life is tied in with strolling through an ocean of encounters and occasions that are beyond your reach, as opposed to battling and lashing out by it, figure out how to see the value in it. Value that radiant yellow fish swimming by; notice the trees waving in the breeze as you sit at that red light. Be interested about the thing life is presenting today. Ingest what’s going on around you, since that isn’t unquestionably everything you can manage yet can assist you with figuring out how to see the value in all that is around us every second.

6. Have objectives

So much being said, have objectives. Objectives assist you with evading this large number of traps. Indeed, objectives are about the future however are autonomous of others; they come from you. What’s more, indeed, there is a result — arriving at the objective or not — however the center is situated towards the cycle, the arriving bit by bit. Objectives have an inherent care that is absent from assumptions. Your objective might be to move into the executives and out of direct help, however it’s not subject to whether your manager resigns or on the other hand assuming she enjoys you.

Objectives are about difficulties and wants, and what you need to become or eventually do, while assumptions get off course of explicitness, about occasions or feelings you have no control over.

7. Practice

Thinking this way is something that takes practice, a reworking of your mind, however it gets simpler, more programmed over the long run.

Put forth objectives, avoid the assumptions, practice mindfulness. As the Buddhists say, “On the off chance that you live without assumptions, you’re a cheerful individual.”

Believe in Yourself



There has been a topic that has always been in my head, “Death”. What happens when you die or what will happen to my husband and children if I should die. It’s been really worrying me. Lost my aunt few days ago and I saw my cousins broken and lost. I thought that could be me. The thought of am I ready or is any person ready for it. Have I lived and did I do what I was placed on this earth to do. I can honestly answer and say I have not. How do one be ready for death, when it comes unexpectedly. It can happen in a blink of an eye.

So many lives

I came to realize that life should not be lived in fear. Fear is not of God but the enemy trying to hold you back. I wrote about fear weeks ago. The very same thing trying to creap up on me. We are stronger than fear. We should not let it control our lives. Life should be enjoyed till the end and there should not be any regrets. Here is 3 steps to follow to avoid feeling trapped by fear of death:

  1. Start doing something you love , when we shift our focus by doing something we love will help with anxiety of feeling fearful of something
  2. Try a new hobby, get involve in your community or even your church. Helping others always made me feel like a hero. In other words stop focusing on yourself just for second will have the most amazing effect on once self esteem.
  3. Be adventurous, now this might be a little hard considering you feeling fearful of something. Add a little adventure to your lifestyle might just be what you need. Go hiking with a few friends can be awesome way too get out of your shell from the fear death.

Remember you are way stronger than you look, never let one word hold you back from living your life. Fear is everywhere and it’s one word. God is powerful and will always have your back, we need too trust in Him and let him control our life not a word.

Stay awesome, Stay blessed

Much love


Down and Out

Be strong

We live in a world where right now we might not see tomorrow. We live amongst a deadly virus that spreaded throughout the entire world over night. We facing fear, hurt, pain and sorrow. Right now where ever you are you feel troubled and so much thoughts running through your mind, am I going too see tomorrow. The fear of not knowing what tomorrow hold is scary. We might not see our family again. Then there is job loses, homelessness, financial stress, poverty. We face so many different problems on a daily basis and we begin too feel overwhelmed by what is happening in our life and in this world. This can take a toll on our lives and in we even loose ourselves because of what we face.

There no perfect person in this world, even when searching you will never find that person. We all have faults. The real question we should ask ourselves what do you do when you have fallen and find yourself down and out. That moment when you ask yourself what am I doing with my life. When you feel there is no hope or feel no joy in your life. What do you want too do?

Hold on too Him

I believe that is the moment that God wants too step in. See God is a jealous God and He wants too be wanted and needed in your life. Sorrow only lasts for a moment but the joy of God lasts entenaly. The moment you let God step in your life there is a present of peace and joy that over takes your life. Again we have too choose what we want in your life. God’s hands and his arms are always open wide and He will never turns His own creations aways. We his children.

The things of this world can eat you up whole, without you seeing it coming. Trails and tribulations will always come and test your faith and give you a push, but “For those you wait upon the Lord will mount up like eagles, they will rise and not fall”. What ever you facing is not permanent. What we forget sometimes is that God will never give you something you can not handle. He knows what and how much you can handle. Only He knows our strength.

Believe in Him

You got this, God got you! Sometimes we have too encourage ourselves. You stronger than what you think. You were created in His likeness and image. Never loose yourself because of the situation you are in. Choose differently, choose God.

Stay Bless


Running away

Have you ever wondered why when you turned or ran away from something you don’t want too deal with or something you feel you can not handle, you always find yourself back in the same position.

No matter how hard you will try too hide yourself from facing that problem or fear, until you deal with it, it will always in some way return back in your life . Fear need to be dealt with not running away from it. It’s the fear that hold you back. The more we run away from it, it will be there and returning in our lives. Fear is not of God but from the enemy. He knows your weakness and uses it against us. Running away from our problems or biggest obstacles in our life will not make our lives perfect or even completed. Instead it will make you feel incomplete because we haven’t dealt with that one obstacle. This could be anything from the smallest thing possible. Trails comes not too hold us back but to make us stronger and better, also it gives us wisdom and understanding. We need too face our trails and fears, not run away from it. It’s the smallest and fastest solution.

After we have dealt with our fears God’s steps in and guides us through cause we faced our fears and we haven’t ran away from it. God wants us too be what He created us too be in His likeness and image. Don’t be controlled by your fear. God knows how much we can handle and He will never give you something He know you can not handle. He created us, only the creator knows what his creations purpose is. You strong enough too face your fears. Dont be controlled by your fears. Don’t run away! Face it head on.

Stop hiding behid your fear. You control your fear. Live your life and be who you are called too be.

Stay Blessed



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It’s so easy to allow negativity from work spoil your day, just like that. By allowing it too let it you simply doing it to yourself. It’s easy choose! That easy just choose

Why should we allow someone else who is having a bad spoil your day, specially your boss. You choose its your life, you choose positivity or negativity.

If you want to attract positivity surrounding yourself with people with positive attitude it’s so important and it adds too your life and it’s not taking away.

Don’t surround yourself with people who are closed minded, it adds no benefits but it will take away from you so much. Those are negative people. Simple run away from them.

When you feel positive you act positive and positive things starts happening around you and to you.

Stay Blessed